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Dilemma: Online Dating

“He Who Finds a Wife”: Navigating Online Dating Through a Biblical and Real-World Lens

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Introduction

In the age of swipes and algorithms, many people are seeking love through apps like Tinder, Plenty of Fish (POF), Bumble, and Hinge. But for Christian women—those striving for godly relationships—this question arises:

“If ‘he who finds a wife findeth a good thing,’ are we supposed to be on dating sites actively searching?”

This article explores the biblical principles, benefits and drawbacks of online dating, the dangers of hookup culture, and the psychological and spiritual consequences of seeking love in the digital age.


📖 Biblical Perspective: Should Women Be Looking or Waiting?

Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”

This verse has long been interpreted to mean that a man is to pursue and a woman is to be found—not hidden, but positioned wisely and modestly, aligning her life with purpose so that a godly man recognizes her worth.

The Bible does not forbid technology or meeting people outside of traditional settings, but it emphasizes wisdom, purity, discernment, and the roles of pursuit and preparation in relationships.


💬 Should Christian Women Be on Dating Apps?

There is no one-size-fits-all answer. Some have met godly spouses through online platforms. Others have encountered manipulation, heartbreak, or spiritual compromise.

Online dating can be a tool, but like all tools, it must be used with prayer, discernment, and boundaries. The key question isn’t just “Am I looking?” but “Why am I here, and who am I becoming while I wait?”


🌐 The Good and the Bad of Online Dating

✅ Potential Benefits

  • Wider pool of people—especially for those in small towns or with limited social circles
  • Faith-based platforms like Christian Mingle or Upward cater to spiritual alignment
  • Can lead to real, lasting relationships if approached with caution and intention

⚠️ Setbacks and Dangers

  1. False representation – Many users lie about their age, intentions, or relationship status.
  2. Delayed red flags – It’s easier to hide manipulation or abuse online.
  3. Hookup culture pressure – Even on serious apps, many users expect sex early on.
  4. Disconnection from reality – Chemistry in text rarely reflects real-life compatibility.
  5. Emotional burnout – Constant rejection or ghosting can lower self-worth.

🔥 What Is Hookup Culture?

Hookup culture refers to a social norm where casual sex and minimal emotional connection are encouraged, often without commitment. It is driven by:

  • Apps like Tinder promoting “matches” based on physical appeal
  • Cultural media celebrating no-strings-attached relationships
  • Fear of vulnerability or deep emotional connection

Hookup culture contradicts biblical views on intimacy, which are rooted in covenant (Hebrews 13:4) and purpose—not temporary pleasure.


👥 Desperation and Digital Dating

Desperation online often shows through:

  • Over-sharing personal trauma early
  • Ignoring red flags for fear of being alone
  • Accepting disrespect or manipulation
  • Chasing validation instead of seeking alignment

Proverbs warns us about haste:

Proverbs 19:2 (KJV):
“He that hasteth with his feet sinneth.”

Moving too quickly in romance, especially under pressure, can lead to pain that takes years to heal.


🍭 What Is a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby Relationship?

A sugar daddy is typically an older man who provides money, gifts, or financial support in exchange for companionship—often sexual—with a younger “sugar baby.”

❌ Dangers Include:

  • Emotional and financial dependency
  • Exploitation or coercion
  • Legal and moral consequences
  • Disconnection from biblical values of love, mutual respect, and covenant

These arrangements mimic prostitution under the guise of “mutual benefit.” Scripture clearly warns against using the body for profit or manipulation (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).


👀 What Should We Look for Biblically in a Relationship?

✅ Character Over Charm

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” — Proverbs 31:30

✅ Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)

Does the person show love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness?

✅ Mutual purpose and spiritual leadership

2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us:

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.”

A godly relationship is not just romantic—it is spiritually aligned and mission-focused.


🛡️ Red Flags and Safety Tips for Online Dating

  • Profiles with no pictures or vague descriptions
  • Pressuring for quick intimacy or financial help
  • Avoids meeting in person or always has excuses
  • Doesn’t respect boundaries or spiritual beliefs
  • Love-bombing early on (excessive flattery + fast attachment)

Protect Yourself:

  • Meet in public places
  • Tell someone your location
  • Do not share financial or personal information early
  • Pray and trust your discernment
  • Final Thought
    Online dating isn’t inherently wrong—but it’s dangerous when pursued without discernment. Ask yourself:
    “Does this relationship align with God’s will for my life, or is it feeding my fear of being alone?”
    A godly relationship is built—not on convenience or charm—but on character, covenant, and Christ.

📚 References & Further Reading

  1. Proverbs 18:22, 31:30, 19:2; 2 Corinthians 6:14; Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 — King James Bible
  2. Wilkins, A. (2022). Hookup Culture: The Unspoken Rules of Sex and Dating. Oxford University Press.
  3. Rhoades, G. K., Stanley, S. M., & Markman, H. J. (2011). “The impact of the transition into cohabitation on relationship functioning: Cross-sectional and longitudinal findings.” Journal of Family Psychology.
  4. Finkel, E. J., et al. (2012). “Online Dating: A Critical Analysis from the Perspective of Psychological Science.” Psychological Science in the Public Interest, 13(1), 3–66.
  5. The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE): https://endsexualexploitation.org – Covers the risks and exploitative nature of “sugar dating.”

The SABBATH

The True Sabbath: A Divine Covenant from Sunset to Sunset

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What Is the Sabbath According to the KJV Bible?

The Sabbath—from the Hebrew word Shabbat, meaning “to cease” or “to rest”—is the seventh day of the week, a sacred time set apart by the Most High for rest and spiritual renewal. It is not merely a day of physical inactivity, but a holy convocation, a divine appointment (Leviticus 23:3 KJV) wherein the people of Yahuah (God) are called to pause from labor and delight in His presence.

According to Genesis 2:2-3 (KJV):

“And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day… And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it.”

This divine ordinance was later codified in the Ten Commandments:
Exodus 20:8-11 (KJV):

“Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy… the seventh day is the sabbath of the LORD thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work…”

The biblical reckoning of a day begins at evening (sundown)—not at midnight or sunrise—based on Genesis 1:5:

“And the evening and the morning were the first day.”

Thus, the true Sabbath begins at Friday sundown and ends at Saturday sundown, encompassing the seventh day in its entirety.

When Is the Sabbath According to the Bible?

According to the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible, the Sabbath is the seventh day of the week, which begins at sundown on Friday and ends at sundown on Saturday. This is based on Hebraic timekeeping, where a biblical “day” starts in the evening, not at midnight.


🔹 Biblical Proof the Sabbath Is the Seventh Day

Genesis 1:5 (KJV):

“And the evening and the morning were the first day.”
This verse shows that a day begins at evening (sundown) and ends the next evening.

Exodus 20:8–11 (KJV):

“Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy… But the seventh day is the sabbath of the LORD thy God…”
The Sabbath is explicitly identified as the seventh day, not the first.

Leviticus 23:32 (KJV):

“From even unto even, shall ye celebrate your sabbath.”
This confirms that Sabbaths are to be observed from evening to evening, meaning from sundown to sundown.


🔹 Modern Understanding: Friday Sundown to Saturday Sundown

Based on the biblical calendar:

  • The Sabbath begins at sunset on Friday (usually around 6:00–7:00 PM depending on your location and time of year)
  • It ends at sunset on Saturday

This 24-hour period is the seventh day of the biblical week.


🔹 Is Sunday the Sabbath?

No. Sunday is the first day of the week, not the seventh. Nowhere in the Bible is Sunday called the Sabbath. The shift from Saturday to Sunday observance came centuries later, starting with Emperor Constantine in 321 CE, who legalized Sunday worship for political and pagan reasons—not biblical authority (see Daniel 7:25).


🔹 Sabbath Summary

  • ✅ Day: The seventh day (Saturday)
  • ✅ Timing: From Friday evening (sundown) to Saturday evening (sundown)
  • ✅ Commanded: In the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20)
  • ✅ Established: At Creation (Genesis 2:2–3)
  • ❌ Not Sunday (the first day of the week)

Misplaced Sabbath: Sunday Worship and Historical Manipulation

The observance of Sunday, the first day of the week, as the Sabbath has no scriptural foundation. Nowhere in the KJV Bible are believers commanded to sanctify the first day. The early assembly of believers (Hebrews 4:9, Acts 13:42-44) continued to observe the Sabbath until political and ecclesiastical forces imposed change.

In 321 CE, Emperor Constantine, a known sun-worshipper, enacted a law mandating Sunday as the day of rest:

“On the venerable day of the sun let the magistrates and people residing in cities rest…”

This decree was later enforced by the Roman Catholic Church, culminating in laws forbidding Sabbath observance on Saturday under penalty of death. Many faithful who chose obedience to Yahuah were martyred, burned, or exiled for resisting what Scripture calls the “traditions of men” (Mark 7:7-9 KJV).


Catholic Admissions: Changing the Day Without Biblical Authority

The Catholic Church has historically admitted this unauthorized change:

“The Pope has power to change times, to abrogate laws…”
— Decretal De Translat. Episcop. Cap.

“The Church is above the Bible, and this transference of Sabbath observance from Saturday to Sunday is proof positive of the fact.”
— Catholic Record, London, Ontario, Sept. 1, 1923

“Nowhere in the Bible is Sunday sanctified… the Scriptures enforce the religious observance of Saturday, a day which we [Catholics] never sanctify.”
— James Cardinal Gibbons, The Faith of Our Fathers, p. 89

“The holy day, the Sabbath, was changed from Saturday to Sunday… not from any directions noted in the Scriptures, but from the church’s sense of its own power.”
— St. Catherine Catholic Church Sentinel, May 21, 1995

These admissions confirm that Sunday worship is an institutional tradition, not a biblical mandate.


A Sign Between Yah and His People

The Sabbath is more than a day—it is a sign of covenant between Yahawahshi and His chosen people.

Ezekiel 20:20 (KJV):
“And hallow my sabbaths; and they shall be a sign between me and you, that ye may know that I am the LORD your God.”

To keep the Sabbath is to identify with the Most High, to walk in His commandments, and to separate from worldly customs.

Constantine and the Sabbath: How Pagan Politics Replaced a Divine Commandment

Who Was Constantine?

Flavius Valerius Constantinus, known as Constantine the Great, was the Roman Emperor from 306 to 337 CE. He is widely remembered for being the first Roman emperor to profess Christianity and for his pivotal role in shaping the political and religious structure of what would become Roman Catholic Christianity.

Though often hailed as a Christian reformer, Constantine’s policies were driven as much by political expediency as religious conviction. He sought unity in a fractured empire, and in doing so, he blended pagan traditions with elements of the early Messianic faith (followers of Yahusha/Jesus), fundamentally altering the course of religious history.


Constantine and the Sunday Law

In the year 321 CE, Constantine issued a civil decree declaring:

“On the venerable day of the sun let the magistrates and people residing in cities rest, and let all workshops be closed.”
— Codex Justinianus, Book 3, Title 12, Law 3

This was the first official law mandating Sunday observance across the Roman Empire—not as a biblical Sabbath, but as a continuation of pagan sun worship, specifically honoring the Roman sun-god Sol Invictus (“the unconquered sun”).

Constantine’s Religious Values and Motives

Though Constantine claimed to have converted to Christianity after a vision before the Battle of the Milvian Bridge in 312 CE, he retained many pagan practices throughout his life. He continued to:

  • Mint coins bearing the image of Sol Invictus
  • Hold the title Pontifex Maximus, the high priest of Roman paganism
  • Worship at pagan temples
  • Blend Roman deities with Christian symbols for political unity

Constantine’s value for the Sabbath was non-existent in its original Hebraic form. Rather than sanctifying the seventh day (Saturday), as commanded in Exodus 20:8–11 (KJV), Constantine sought to displace it with Sunday, the traditional day of sun-god worship. This move:

  • Appealed to the pagan majority, who already honored the sun
  • Distanced the Christian sect from its Jewish roots, which were being persecuted
  • Unified religious practices under one empire-wide schedule

The Impact on Sabbath Observance

Although many early believers (including Gentile converts) continued to keep the Saturday Sabbath well into the 4th and 5th centuries, Constantine’s decree became the foundation for institutional Sunday worship.

Following Constantine’s precedent, the Council of Laodicea (circa 364 CE) officially forbade believers from observing the Sabbath, stating:

“Christians must not Judaize by resting on the Sabbath, but must work on that day, honoring rather the Lord’s Day [Sunday]… if any be found to be Judaizers, let them be anathema from Christ.”

This marked the transition from biblical Sabbath observance to the enforced observance of Sunday, a man-made tradition devoid of scriptural support.


Constantine’s Legacy: Replacing Commandments with Tradition

Constantine’s decisions fundamentally altered the commandments given by Yahuah, fulfilling the warning found in Daniel 7:25 (KJV):

“And he shall speak great words against the most High, and shall wear out the saints of the most High, and think to change times and laws…”

This prophecy aligns precisely with Constantine’s actions: changing the time of the Sabbath and replacing the law of Yahuah with imperial decree.

By aligning Christianity with state power and pagan custom, Constantine:

  • Institutionalized Sunday worship
  • Set the stage for the Roman Catholic Church’s dominance
  • Led millions into unwitting disobedience of the Fourth Commandment

A Call Back to the Ancient Path

Constantine’s legacy serves as a sober reminder that human authority can never override the eternal law of Yahuah. The true Sabbath—from Friday sundown to Saturday sundown—remains unchanged, blessed, and sanctified since the foundation of the world (Genesis 2:3 KJV).

Isaiah 58:13-14 (KJV):
“If thou turn away thy foot from the sabbath, from doing thy pleasure on my holy day… Then shalt thou delight thyself in the Lord…”

The distortion of the Sabbath is not merely a historical footnote; it is a matter of spiritual fidelity. In returning to the seventh-day Sabbath, believers reject the traditions of men and embrace the covenant of the Most High, walking in obedience and truth.


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Final Reflection: Returning to the Ancient Paths

Today, millions gather on Sunday believing they are honoring the Most High, yet they have forsaken His commanded rest. As they leave their sanctuaries, unchanged and disconnected from truth, their souls remain empty, and their sins unrepented.

Jeremiah 6:16 (KJV):
“Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths… and ye shall find rest for your souls.”

Keeping the true Sabbath, from Friday sundown to Saturday sundown, is a revolutionary act of faith, a return to divine order in an age of confusion.

Let the people of Yahuah rise, not in rebellion against man, but in obedience to the Most High, keeping His Sabbath holy, walking in truth, and forsaking the commandments of men.