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The Psychology of Pretty: Who Benefits From Your Insecurity?

The concept of “pretty” is not merely aesthetic; it is a socially constructed standard shaped by cultural, historical, and economic forces. Within the academic field of Social Psychology, attractiveness is understood as a form of social currency that influences perception, treatment, and opportunity (Langlois et al., 2000).

Physically, “prettiness” is often associated with facial symmetry, clear skin, proportional features, and cues of health and youth. Evolutionary psychology suggests that these traits signal genetic fitness; however, cultural standards significantly modify these preferences (Rhodes, 2006).

The “halo effect,” a well-documented cognitive bias, demonstrates that individuals perceived as attractive are often assumed to possess positive traits such as intelligence, kindness, and competence (Dion, Berscheid, & Walster, 1972). This bias reinforces the social advantages associated with beauty.

Beauty standards are not neutral; they are shaped by systems of power. Eurocentric features—lighter skin, straighter hair, and narrower facial structures—have historically been positioned as the ideal, marginalizing diverse forms of beauty (Hunter, 2007).

The commodification of beauty is central to consumer capitalism. Industries such as cosmetics, fashion, and plastic surgery generate profit by promoting insecurity and offering products as solutions. As Naomi Wolf argues, beauty standards function as a social control mechanism.

“Prettiness” becomes a performance, requiring maintenance, consumption, and conformity. Individuals are encouraged to invest time and resources into aligning with these standards, often at the expense of psychological well-being.

Internalized bias represents the psychological absorption of societal standards. Individuals begin to evaluate themselves through the lens of dominant ideals, leading to self-criticism and diminished self-worth (Hill, 2002).

Internalized Bias: The Battle Within the Mind

Internalized bias operates subconsciously, shaping perception, preference, and identity. It is not imposed externally alone but becomes embedded within the individual’s cognitive framework.

For many, this manifests as a persistent dissatisfaction with one’s appearance. Even objectively attractive individuals may feel inadequate if they do not align with specific cultural ideals.

This internal conflict can lead to behaviors such as excessive grooming, cosmetic procedures, or avoidance of social situations. The mind becomes a battleground where self-perception is constantly negotiated.

Research indicates that internalized beauty standards are linked to anxiety, depression, and body dysmorphia, particularly among women exposed to narrow representations of beauty (Grabe, Ward, & Hyde, 2008).

Colorism further complicates this dynamic. Preferences for lighter skin within communities of color reflect internalized hierarchies rooted in colonial history (Hunter, 2007).

Social Media vs. Self-Worth: A Silent War

Social media has intensified the relationship between beauty and self-worth. Platforms such as Instagram and TikTok prioritize visual content, creating environments where appearance is constantly evaluated.

Algorithms amplify idealized images, often filtered and edited, presenting unrealistic standards as attainable norms. This distorts perception and increases comparison.

The concept of “likes” and engagement metrics transforms validation into quantifiable data. Self-worth becomes tied to external feedback, reinforcing dependence on social approval (Twenge, 2017).

This dynamic creates a feedback loop: insecurity drives engagement, and engagement reinforces insecurity. Users are both consumers and participants in the system.

Studies show that increased social media use correlates with lower self-esteem and higher levels of body dissatisfaction, particularly among young women (Fardouly & Vartanian, 2016).

Despite these challenges, social media also offers opportunities for representation and resistance. Diverse creators can challenge dominant standards and promote alternative narratives of beauty.

However, the underlying economic structure remains. Platforms benefit from prolonged engagement, and insecurity is a powerful driver of attention and consumption.

The question of who benefits from insecurity is therefore critical. Corporations, advertisers, and influencers profit from the continuous cycle of comparison and consumption.

The Hidden Cost of “Pretty” in a Filtered World

In a digitally mediated culture, the meaning of “pretty” has been reshaped by filters, editing tools, and algorithm-driven visibility. Platforms such as Instagram and TikTok curate idealized images that blur the line between reality and enhancement, creating standards that are not only narrow but often unattainable. These filtered representations intensify social comparison upward, where individuals measure themselves against perfected versions of others, leading to increased body dissatisfaction and diminished self-esteem. Research indicates that frequent exposure to edited images is associated with heightened appearance anxiety and a distorted perception of normative beauty, particularly among young women (Fardouly & Vartanian, 2016).

The psychological cost extends beyond momentary comparison into deeper identity formation, where self-worth becomes contingent upon visual approval and digital validation. The quantification of attractiveness through likes, comments, and engagement metrics reinforces a feedback loop in which external affirmation dictates internal value. Over time, this dynamic can contribute to anxiety, depressive symptoms, and body dysmorphic tendencies, as individuals internalize unrealistic standards and strive to replicate them offline (Grabe, Ward, & Hyde, 2008). Thus, the filtered world does not merely reflect beauty norms—it actively reconstructs them, often at the expense of mental well-being.

Breaking this cycle requires critical awareness. Individuals must recognize the constructed nature of beauty standards and the systems that sustain them.

Psychological resilience involves redefining self-worth beyond appearance. This includes valuing character, intellect, and purpose over physical conformity.

Educational interventions and media literacy can help individuals deconstruct harmful narratives and develop healthier self-perceptions.

Ultimately, “prettiness” is not an inherent measure of value but a socially mediated construct. Understanding its origins and implications allows individuals to reclaim autonomy over their identity.

The pursuit of beauty need not be abandoned, but it must be contextualized. When detached from self-worth, it can become a form of expression rather than a source of insecurity.

References

Dion, K., Berscheid, E., & Walster, E. (1972). What is beautiful is good. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 24(3), 285–290.

Fardouly, J., & Vartanian, L. R. (2016). Social media and body image concerns. Current Opinion in Psychology, 9, 1–5.

Grabe, S., Ward, L. M., & Hyde, J. S. (2008). Media exposure and body dissatisfaction. Psychological Bulletin, 134(3), 460–476.

Hill, M. E. (2002). Skin color and attractiveness. Social Psychology Quarterly, 65(1), 77–91.

Hunter, M. (2007). The persistent problem of colorism. Sociology Compass, 1(1), 237–254.

Langlois, J. H., et al. (2000). Maxims or myths of beauty. Psychological Bulletin, 126(3), 390–423.

Rhodes, G. (2006). The evolutionary psychology of facial beauty. Annual Review of Psychology, 57, 199–226.

Twenge, J. M. (2017). iGen. Atria Books.

Wolf, N. (1991). The beauty myth. HarperCollins.

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The Economics of Beauty: Why Insecurity Sells

The modern beauty economy is not merely a marketplace of products; it is a sophisticated system of influence that monetizes perception. At its core lies a paradox: the industry profits most when individuals feel least satisfied with themselves. This dynamic reveals that insecurity is not an accidental byproduct of beauty culture—it is often a central driver of its profitability.

Consumer capitalism thrives on the creation of desire, and in the realm of beauty, desire is frequently rooted in perceived deficiency. Advertising rarely begins with affirmation; instead, it introduces a problem—wrinkles, dark spots, body shape, hair texture—and then offers a solution. This problem-solution framework is foundational to marketing psychology and has proven highly effective in driving consumption.

The global beauty industry, valued in the hundreds of billions, depends on repeat purchasing behavior. For such behavior to persist, satisfaction must remain temporary. If consumers were fully content with their appearance, demand for corrective and enhancement products would decline. Thus, the industry subtly encourages a cycle of dissatisfaction followed by temporary relief.

Social comparison theory provides insight into this mechanism. Individuals evaluate themselves relative to others, particularly those perceived as superior or ideal (Festinger, 1954). Media platforms amplify this process by curating highly filtered, edited, and often unrealistic images, establishing difficult benchmarks—if not impossible—to attain.

Digital technologies have intensified these dynamics. Filters, photo editing tools, and algorithm-driven content prioritize faces and bodies that align with narrow beauty ideals. As a result, users are exposed to a continuous stream of “perfected” images, which can distort self-perception and increase body dissatisfaction (Perloff, 2014).

Insecurity, once internalized, becomes economically productive. It motivates individuals to invest in products and services that promise transformation—cosmetics, skincare, hair extensions, fitness programs, and even surgical procedures. Each purchase is not merely transactional; it is aspirational, tied to the hope of becoming more acceptable or desirable.

Colorism represents a particularly potent example of how insecurity is commodified. In many societies, lighter skin has been historically privileged, leading to the proliferation of skin-lightening products. These products generate significant revenue globally, despite growing awareness of their health risks and ethical implications (Hunter, 2007).

Hair texture has also been a site of economic exploitation. Industries built around straightening, relaxing, and altering natural hair textures have long capitalized on the devaluation of Afro-textured hair. Although natural hair movements have challenged these norms, the economic legacy of these standards remains substantial.

The language of beauty marketing often masks its underlying strategies. Terms like “enhance,” “perfect,” and “correct” imply that the natural state is insufficient. This linguistic framing subtly reinforces the idea that improvement is necessary, positioning products as essential rather than optional.

Psychologically, repeated exposure to such messaging can lead to internalized dissatisfaction. Studies in body image research indicate that individuals who frequently engage with appearance-focused media are more likely to experience negative self-evaluations and lower self-esteem (Grabe, Ward, & Hyde, 2008).

The economic model extends beyond products to services and experiences. The rise of influencer culture has transformed individuals into brand ambassadors, monetizing personal appearance and lifestyle. Influencers often present curated versions of themselves, reinforcing idealized standards while simultaneously promoting products that promise similar results.

This system creates a feedback loop. Consumers compare themselves to influencers, feel inadequate, purchase recommended products, and then contribute to the same culture by sharing their own curated images. In this way, insecurity becomes both the input and output of the beauty economy.

From a sociological perspective, beauty functions as a form of capital. Attractive individuals often receive social and economic advantages, including higher wages and greater opportunities—a phenomenon known as the “beauty premium” (Hamermesh & Biddle, 1994). This reinforces the incentive to invest in appearance, further fueling the industry.

However, the distribution of this “beauty capital” is not neutral. It is shaped by race, gender, and class, with marginalized groups often facing greater pressure to conform to dominant standards. This intersectionality highlights that the economics of beauty are deeply intertwined with broader systems of inequality.

The commodification of insecurity raises ethical questions. To what extent should industries profit from psychological vulnerability? While businesses operate within market logic, there is increasing scrutiny regarding the social impact of their practices, particularly in relation to mental health.

Regulatory efforts and public awareness campaigns have begun to address some of these concerns. Initiatives promoting body positivity and diversity challenge narrow standards and encourage more inclusive representations. However, these movements themselves can be co-opted and commercialized, illustrating the adaptability of the beauty economy.

Education remains a critical tool for disruption. Media literacy programs can help individuals recognize manipulative marketing strategies and critically evaluate the images they consume. By understanding the constructed nature of beauty standards, consumers can make more informed choices.

On an individual level, reducing reliance on external validation can weaken the economic power of insecurity. When self-worth is grounded in intrinsic values rather than appearance, the compulsion to purchase corrective products diminishes. This shift, while personal, has collective implications.

It is important to note that engaging with beauty practices is not inherently problematic. Grooming, adornment, and self-expression are natural aspects of human culture. The issue arises when these practices are driven by inadequacy rather than choice, and when industries exploit that inadequacy for profit.

Ultimately, the economics of beauty reveal a fundamental truth: insecurity sells because it sustains demand. To disrupt this cycle requires both structural change and individual awareness. As consumers become more conscious of these dynamics, the possibility emerges for a more ethical and empowering beauty economy.

References

Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7(2), 117–140.

Grabe, S., Ward, L. M., & Hyde, J. S. (2008). The role of the media in body image concerns among women: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 134(3), 460–476. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.134.3.460

Hamermesh, D. S., & Biddle, J. E. (1994). Beauty and the labor market. American Economic Review, 84(5), 1174–1194.

Hunter, M. (2007). The persistent problem of colorism: Skin tone, status, and inequality. Sociology Compass, 1(1), 237–254. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1751-9020.2007.00006.x

Perloff, R. M. (2014). Social media effects on young women’s body image concerns: Theoretical perspectives and an agenda for research. Sex Roles, 71(11–12), 363–377. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-014-0384-6

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The Beautiful Lie: How Society Profits from Insecurity.

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Beauty, once a divine reflection of the Creator’s artistry, has been reduced to a calculated illusion—a “beautiful lie” designed to manipulate desire, monetize insecurity, and manufacture self-doubt. In today’s global marketplace, appearance has become currency, and perfection is the most profitable deception of all. Beneath the gloss of glamour lies a darker truth: entire industries thrive because people have been taught to hate themselves.

The business of insecurity is one of the most lucrative empires in history. From cosmetic conglomerates to social media platforms, corporations profit from the human yearning to feel valuable. Advertisers do not sell products—they sell the promise of acceptance. Their genius lies in first convincing consumers that something is wrong with them, then offering a remedy. As Jean Kilbourne famously noted, advertising doesn’t just reflect culture—it creates it. The beauty industry’s success depends on perpetual dissatisfaction.

From a young age, people are conditioned to equate worth with appearance. Billboards, television ads, and digital influencers bombard the psyche with unrealistic standards. Women are told that youth equals beauty and that aging is failure. Men are taught that strength equals worth and vulnerability equals weakness. This conditioning shapes self-perception long before individuals are conscious of it. In essence, society manufactures insecurity, then monetizes the cure.

The “beautiful lie” is reinforced through repetition and aspiration. The more we see an image, the more we internalize it as truth. The faces on magazine covers, filtered social media feeds, and cosmetic advertisements become the blueprint for desirability. Yet these images are often digitally manipulated, creating an unattainable ideal. When people fail to live up to these illusions, they blame themselves instead of the system designed to deceive them.

In this way, insecurity becomes an economic engine. The global beauty and self-improvement industry generates hundreds of billions annually, feeding off dissatisfaction. Each wrinkle cream, diet pill, or surgical enhancement is marketed as liberation, yet it only deepens bondage. As Naomi Wolf (1991) argued, the beauty myth keeps people, especially women, distracted from power by keeping them preoccupied with appearance. What masquerades as empowerment often conceals economic exploitation.

Social media has intensified this cycle by transforming self-presentation into performance. Platforms like Instagram and TikTok reward conformity to specific aesthetics. Filters erase imperfections, while algorithms amplify idealized content. Users learn to edit their own faces and lives in real time, curating an image that aligns with societal approval. This performative culture traps millions in digital mirrors—comparing, competing, and consuming in pursuit of validation that never satisfies.

For communities of color, the beautiful lie carries an additional layer of violence. Eurocentric standards have long defined beauty as whiteness, rendering African, Asian, and Indigenous features “other.” Colorism, hair discrimination, and body shaming are not accidental—they are the residual tools of colonialism, weaponized to enforce inferiority. The global skin-lightening industry, worth billions, proves that racialized beauty standards remain profitable centuries after slavery’s end.

The irony is that the traits once mocked—full lips, darker skin, textured hair—are now commodified when worn by non-Black bodies. This cultural theft exposes how beauty capitalism does not celebrate diversity; it exploits it. By extracting elements of Blackness without acknowledging Black humanity, society continues to profit from the same features it historically oppressed. The beautiful lie thus perpetuates both aesthetic and racial inequality.

Psychologically, this system operates like an addiction. Each purchase offers temporary relief from insecurity but deepens dependency on external validation. The mirror becomes a site of anxiety rather than appreciation. As bell hooks (1992) observed, this psychological colonization convinces people to view themselves through the eyes of the oppressor. True liberation requires breaking the gaze—learning to see oneself as God intended, not as marketing demands.

Spiritually, the beautiful lie represents the fall of humanity’s original design. In Genesis 1:27, Scripture declares that mankind was created in the image of God. This divine image (imago Dei) bestowed inherent worth and beauty upon every soul. Yet the serpent’s deception in the Garden of Eden was rooted in the same strategy that drives today’s marketing: convincing people that what God made was not enough. The modern beauty industry continues this ancient lie—“You will be better if you buy.”

When appearance replaces character as the measure of worth, society loses its moral compass. The culture of comparison breeds envy, pride, and despair. People are no longer content to be; they must appear. This illusion of perfection erodes authenticity and replaces identity with branding. In this context, beauty becomes not an expression of individuality, but a performance for approval.

The consequences extend beyond the psychological to the economic. Billions are spent annually on products and procedures that promise transformation but deliver dependence. Corporations profit most when consumers are never satisfied. The model is designed not for fulfillment but for repetition. Insecurity is thus not a flaw of the system—it is the system. Without self-doubt, capitalism would lose one of its most reliable markets.

In the African diaspora, the rejection of this system has become an act of resistance. Movements like “Black is Beautiful,” “Melanin Magic,” and “Love Your Hair” reclaim identity from colonial deception. They remind the world that beauty is not the property of whiteness but the reflection of divine diversity. To love oneself as God created is a radical act in a world that profits from self-hate.

For men, too, the lie is evolving. The rise of male beauty industries and gym culture has produced a new kind of insecurity. Men are now taught to chase hypermasculine physiques and external success at the expense of emotional wholeness. The result is silent suffering masked by muscle and materialism. Cosmetic capitalism thus exploits all genders, reshaping the soul through the scalpel of profit.

Breaking free from the beautiful lie requires reclaiming truth. The truth that beauty is not a currency, but a calling. That self-worth is not purchased, but inherited from divine origin. The book of Psalms declares, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14, KJV). This is not poetic sentiment—it is spiritual revelation. To accept oneself as God made is the ultimate rejection of the capitalist lie.

Communities, educators, and faith leaders must play a role in restoring healthy identity. Teaching children to value character over cosmetics, and purpose over popularity, reclaims the narrative from corporations that exploit innocence. Spiritual formation must replace self-marketing; self-acceptance must triumph over self-alteration. In this way, beauty becomes testimony, not transaction.

Ultimately, the beautiful lie thrives only as long as people believe they are broken. The moment individuals rediscover their divine reflection, the illusion collapses. The mirrors of capitalism shatter when faced with the light of truth. True beauty—rooted in integrity, compassion, and divine creation—cannot be sold, filtered, or franchised. It is freedom made visible.

In rejecting the beautiful lie, humanity rediscovers its original design: whole, worthy, and radiant in the image of God. When we stop buying insecurity and start living truth, beauty ceases to be an industry—and becomes what it was always meant to be: the visible echo of the Creator’s love.

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Overcoming Insecurity Through Faith, Self-Awareness, and Renewal.

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Insecurity is a silent weight that many carry but few discuss openly. It creeps into our minds, whispering that we are not enough— not beautiful enough, smart enough, loved enough, or worthy enough. Whether it stems from childhood experiences, social comparison, or internalized self-doubt, insecurity has the power to distort our self-perception and limit our potential. The struggle with insecurity is universal, but the journey toward freedom begins with understanding where it comes from and how to dismantle its hold on our hearts and minds.

Often, insecurity takes root early in life through experiences that shape our self-image. Words spoken over us as children—whether affirming or damaging—become the internal dialogue we repeat as adults. If we were criticized, neglected, or made to feel less than others, insecurity can become our default emotional state. These wounds, if left unhealed, manifest in how we view ourselves and how we relate to others.

In a society that glorifies perfection and appearance, insecurity is amplified by constant comparison. Social media, advertising, and entertainment create unrealistic standards of success, beauty, and happiness. When we measure ourselves against these illusions, we begin to feel inadequate. Yet, these portrayals are often far removed from reality. Recognizing that comparison is a thief of joy is a crucial step toward reclaiming a healthy self-view.

The Bible reminds us that true worth is not found in external approval but in our divine identity. Psalm 139:14 declares, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” This scripture is not a poetic sentiment—it is a truth that directly confronts insecurity. When we understand that our value is rooted in how God designed us, rather than in how others perceive us, we begin to replace self-doubt with divine assurance.

Another cause of insecurity lies in fear—fear of rejection, failure, or not meeting expectations. These fears create an inner tension that makes us question our every move. However, 2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us that “God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” When we embrace this promise, we can confront insecurity not as a permanent flaw but as a challenge that can be overcome through faith and spiritual renewal.

Healing from insecurity requires honest self-reflection. We must identify the sources of our doubts and challenge the negative narratives we tell ourselves. Journaling, prayer, and counseling can be valuable tools in this process. Writing down moments when we feel unworthy and tracing their origins helps us understand the emotional triggers behind insecurity. Awareness becomes the first step toward transformation.

Insecurity also thrives in environments where validation is conditional. When people only affirm us for our achievements, appearance, or status, we begin to associate love with performance. Breaking this cycle means embracing the truth that love and worthiness are unconditional. God’s love is not based on how much we do, but on who we are—His creation, His image, His children.

It is equally important to recognize the role of community in overcoming insecurity. Surrounding ourselves with positive, faith-filled individuals helps reinforce a healthy mindset. Proverbs 27:17 states, “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.” Supportive people remind us of our strengths when we forget them and help us stay grounded in truth when insecurity tries to return.

Practical strategies can also help combat insecurity in daily life. Practicing gratitude redirects our focus from what we lack to what we have. Setting small, achievable goals builds confidence through action. Learning to celebrate progress, rather than perfection, creates momentum toward self-assurance.

Replacing negative self-talk with affirmations rooted in scripture is another powerful tool. Instead of thinking, “I’m not good enough,” we can declare, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13). Over time, these declarations reshape our inner narrative and align our thoughts with God’s truth rather than worldly lies.

Insecurity also affects relationships. When we operate from a place of self-doubt, we may become overly dependent on others for validation or, conversely, push people away out of fear of rejection. Healthy relationships require confidence in one’s own identity. When we learn to love ourselves properly, we can love others without insecurity sabotaging connection.

Spiritual growth plays a vital role in this process. Reading the Word, spending time in prayer, and cultivating intimacy with God strengthen the foundation of self-worth. The closer we draw to the Creator, the more clearly we see ourselves through His eyes. His presence replaces our broken self-image with the reflection of divine purpose and love.

Forgiveness is another step toward healing insecurity. Sometimes our insecurities are tied to unresolved pain caused by others. Letting go of resentment and forgiving those who hurt us frees our hearts from emotional captivity. Forgiveness does not excuse wrongdoing—it releases us from carrying the burden of bitterness.

Additionally, learning self-compassion helps neutralize insecurity. Many people treat themselves far harsher than they would treat anyone else. Speaking kindly to ourselves, acknowledging our efforts, and accepting that growth takes time nurtures emotional resilience. As Jesus taught in Mark 12:31, we are to “love thy neighbour as thyself”—meaning love for self is part of divine balance.

Overcoming insecurity is not about becoming flawless; it is about embracing authenticity. True confidence is quiet and steady—it comes from knowing who we are, not from seeking constant validation. When we live authentically, we attract relationships and opportunities aligned with truth rather than pretense.

There will always be moments when insecurity tries to resurface. However, recognizing it early and responding with truth and grace keeps it from regaining power. Growth involves setbacks, but each step forward is proof of strength. Healing is not linear, but it is possible with persistence and faith.

Over time, as we practice these habits, insecurity loses its grip. The person who once doubted their worth begins to stand tall in confidence, not arrogance, but in the assurance of divine identity. This transformation is both spiritual and psychological—a rebirth of self-perception rooted in God’s truth.

We must remember that self-worth cannot be earned; it is inherited through creation. Our flaws do not disqualify us from purpose—they often become the very vessels through which God’s strength is revealed. Insecurity tells us we are not enough; faith answers, “You are complete in Him” (Colossians 2:10).

Ultimately, breaking free from insecurity means breaking agreement with lies and embracing the truth of who we are. It requires courage to unlearn years of self-doubt and replace them with confidence built on grace. When we stop striving to be accepted and start believing we already are, we experience peace beyond performance.

In the end, overcoming insecurity is not about fixing ourselves but rediscovering the divine reflection that was never broken. The journey is lifelong, but every step toward self-acceptance and faith-filled confidence brings us closer to the person God designed us to be—whole, loved, and secure.

References

  • The Holy Bible, King James Version.
  • Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are. Hazelden Publishing.
  • Joyce Meyer. (2008). Battlefield of the mind: Winning the battle in your mind. FaithWords.
  • Tchividjian, T. (2013). One way love: Inexhaustible grace for an exhausted world. David C Cook.